The Top Ten Secrets For Great Sex!

Clearly there are no rules, only what lovers have known since Antony and Cleopatra: "Pay attention, be kind, and be loving". But the following Top Ten List might be a useful reminder! Enjoy!

1. Guys: Great sex starts in the kitchen! Wash the dishes, take out the trash, give her a break, let her know she's appreciated. Romance and exhaustion do not mix -- think about it! (Besides, standing there, side by side, washing and drying those dishes, hands could get to roamin' and motors could get to tickin' ...the most amazing things do happen!)

2. Gals: Tell that old fool just exactly what you've been waiting for! Most males are notoriously poor mind readers, they just don't "get it". So tell him! "A little softer" or "let me show you" goes much further than, "How come you never know what I want?"

3. Guys: Take time! Sex is about fun, relaxation, laughter and love -- this is not a competition or a 50-yard dash to the finish line! Start slow, let it build, then finish strong. A glass of wine, maybe some music, a backrub, even a few minutes of silence can shift the mood and make things verrrry interesting!!

4. Gals: Make Time! How often does sex happen last thing at night, with two exhausted people trying to find each other in the dark? Or, first thing in the morning, half asleep, with bad breath? If sex is important, why not treat it like getting your haircut or picking the kids up after school? In other words, schedule time, put it on the calendar and treat it as a key part of keeping yourself and the family running smoothly.

5. Guys: Think about your 4th date with the woman you love, after you were well acquainted but everything still felt new and exciting. Remember thinking about it, scheduling it, making dinner reservations? Remember being on time? Did you bring flowers, maybe plan something romantic or special? Remember taking a shower and using cologne? Well, guess what -- she's still special and she's still waiting!

6. Gals: If you want great sex, seduce him! This is not rocket science! Most guys are sooooo easy. They're "visual" -- show him what he likes. They're easily flattered -- whisper what he wants to hear. Touch him right there, or if you prefer, right THERE!!! Tease him, just don't be a tease.

7. Guys: Surprise her. Women love that. And, the beauty is, almost anything will work. Surprise her with flowers, with a card, get a baby-sitter for the evening, put a note on the windshield of her car. Even surprise her by cleaning the bathroom! Almost anything will work, just be kind, be gentle, and put a little thought into it.

8. Gals: With all the talk about "size", remember that a man's biggest sex organ is his imagination -- so use your own! Everyone has fantasies -- some romantic, some kinky, maybe even a few that are slightly dangerous or outrageous. What are yours? And, what are his? Why not play dress-up? Why not go on a date with someone "new"?

9. Guys: I just told the gals you have a great imagination -- don't make me a liar! Use it! How long has it been since you had sex in the back seat of a Ford? Would she enjoy a date with a spy? Being seduced by a plumber or "the cable guy"? Is your shower big enough for two? Ever done it at the office -- how about her office?

10. Gals: Take time to add variety and spice with tasteful magazines, toys, movies and beautiful lingerie. For most people (including men) pornography quickly turns into a turn-off, but a little satin and lace, maybe some sensual pictures or using common household items in a whole new way can sure add delight to the old routine. Explore, experiment, lock the bedroom door and play some brand new games! As they say, "Just do it!"

� Copyright 2003 by Philip E. Humbert. All Rights Reserved. This article may be copied and used in your own newsletter or on your website as long as you include the following information: "Written by Dr. Philip E. Humbert, writer, speaker and success coach. Dr. Humbert has over 300 free articles, tools and resources for your success, including a great newsletter! It's all on his website at: http://www.philiphumbert.com

In The News:


Texas School District Sex Education Compares Non-Virgins To Chewed Gum - Huffington Post


Texas School District Sex Education Compares Non-Virgins To Chewed Gum
Huffington Post
Sexual health advocate Katie Gustainis Vela recently obtained what appears to be an instructional worksheet meant for teachers who lecture on sex ed. Vela tweeted a photo of the worksheet -- which likens people who have premarital sex to pieces of ...

and more »

PEI guide for parents: 'healthy' for kids to masturbate, touch genitals of ... - Lifesite


PEI guide for parents: 'healthy' for kids to masturbate, touch genitals of ...
Lifesite
The 7-page guide, titled “Children's Sexual Behaviours: A Parent's Guide”, put out by the Provincial Child Sexual Abuse Advisory Committee, provides a standard for what experts consider normal sexual behaviour in children from preschool to grade four.

UPDATED:Commentators accuse PEI government of sexualizing children - Journal Pioneer


UPDATED:Commentators accuse PEI government of sexualizing children
Journal Pioneer
CHARLOTTETOWN – Prince Edward Island's new parental guide to childhood sexual behaviour is being decried by some commentators as a “destructive” document that promotes pedophilia. Children's Sexual Behaviors: A Parent's Guide ... In a follow-up ...

and more »

'Sexuality education' for 5-year-olds is 'not about sex at all', NZ Planned ... - Lifesite


Lifesite

'Sexuality education' for 5-year-olds is 'not about sex at all', NZ Planned ...
Lifesite
AUCKLAND, New Zealand, November 7, 2013 (LifeSiteNews.com) - The New Zealand Family Planning Association is trying to save face after public backlash over the Association's plan to release a sexuality resource for children aged 5 to 8 later this month.
If College Students Can't Say What 'Consent' Is, Then We...The New Republic

all 2 news articles »

Will sex education help school children? - Zambia Daily Mail (blog)


Zambia Daily Mail (blog)

Will sex education help school children?
Zambia Daily Mail (blog)
The ugly truth has prompted Ministry of Education, UNESCO and other stakeholders to develop a comprehensive sexuality education framework that will be infused into the school curriculum. The new curriculum is coming into effect in 2014, and only pupils ...


Tantra, Monogamy And Safe Sex

The concern about safe sex has resulted in a revival... Read More

Self-Pleasure Tips for Women ~ Using Your Hands and Fingers

Our hands and fingertips contain a lot of nerve-endings rendering... Read More

Genital Warts: A Common Sexually Transmitted Disease

Genital warts are also called condylomata acuminata or venereal warts.... Read More

Infidelity Discovered? 10 Ways to Calm Your Powerful Feelings

When you find out about the affair, the first few... Read More

Adult Halloween Costumes for Mature Trick or Treating!

Getting the kids dressed up for Halloween can be a... Read More

The Financial Power of Gay Weddings ? Q & A

Q. Why should people consider gay unions financially profitable?A. Gay... Read More

Sex & the Single Gay Guy

Introduction"To have sex or not to have sex, that is... Read More

Condoms- a Safe Way to Birth Control

Why do I need to use a condom?Condoms are the... Read More

Is He Gay?

The following signs may help you decide if your boyfriend... Read More

Socrates, Politics and Axe Murder: A Look at Gay Marriage

This week, I attended a reading by Christopher Phillips. He... Read More

Middle-Aged, Sexually Active, and at Great Risk for STDs

Many middle-aged and older adults feel they are somehow immune... Read More

11 Hot Tips For Lasting Longer in Bed

Ever wanted to achieve more sexual pleasure for you and... Read More

Excess Vaginal Wetness - What are Your Options

Vaginal Wetness during Sex: YOU MAY BE WETTER THAN NECESSARY!Most... Read More

Sex Toys - Theres One For Everyone

Dongs & DildosThe most common of sex toys, dildos or... Read More

Buddha Sex

Top Questions of our Time Series: SexSlam bam thank you... Read More

The Real Kama Sutra Is Not Tantra......but Heres Why You Should Be Interested In Both

Tantra and the Kama Sutra are often lumped together by... Read More

Fornication

Pejorative images of Bible-thumping deviates come to mind. When did... Read More

Sex or Gender

Alan Pease, author of a book titled "Why Men Don't... Read More

Ben Wa Balls - How To Use Ben Wa Balls And Their Benefits

Ben Wa Balls, or Ben Wah Balls have been around... Read More

How Do You Use Anal Beads? Why Are Anal Beads So Popular?

Anal beads are used by both men and women and... Read More

The Married Lovers Hot Bed

You've finally done it - tied the knot, taken the... Read More

Pornography Addiction

I do not have a pornography addiction; that is my... Read More

Lovemaking Position - Size Does Matter

Do you have an average size or a short penis?... Read More

Swinging Lifestyle! A Way of Life, a Style of Living

What is the swinging lifestyle?By definition, the lifestyle is the... Read More

Female Ejaculation: Myth or Fact? The Answers You Seek!

Most men don't truly understand the nature of the Vagina,... Read More